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'You are all underachieving disappointments:' Dad's scathing letter to his kids goes viral
Friday, November 30, 2012    
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Email sent from retired British nuclear submarine captain Nick Crews to his three children earlier this year takes UK by storm.

() -- It’s probably safe to say everyone has experienced the feeling of parental disappointment — whether that be as the child having disappointed your parents at one time, or as the parent expressing it. Channeling the essence of this disappointment, perhaps you’ll be able to understand — or not — what drove one parent to pen the scathing email to his kids included below.

That email, sent from retired British nuclear submarine captain Nick Crews to his three children earlier this year, has taken the UK by storm, and now it’s finally made its way across the pond and is going viral in the U.S. It’s easy to see why. The no-nonsense letter focuses on what a disappointment Crews’ children have been to him and their mother, and how they have failed both in life and their marriages.

Here are some of the most shocking passages of the nearly 700-word email that begings “Dear all three” (Note: Emphasis added):
  • We are constantly regaled with chapter and verse of the happy, successful lives of the families of our friends and relatives and being asked of news of our own children and grandchildren. I wonder if you realise how we feel — we have nothing to say which reflects any credit on you or us.
  • Each of you is well able to earn a comfortable living and provide for your children, yet each of you has contrived to avoid even moderate achievement. Far from your children being able to rely on your provision, they are faced with needing to survive their introduction to life with you as parents.
  • None of you has done yourself, or given to us, the basic courtesy to ask us what we think while there was still time finally to think things through.
  • It makes us weak that so many of these events are copulation-driven, and then helplessly to see these lovely little people being so woefully let down by you, their parents.
  • I can now tell you that I for one [...] have had enough of being forced to live through the never-ending bad dream of our children’s underachievement and domestic ineptitudes.

The 67-year-old went onto write that he doesn’t want any of his children to further burden their mother with their “miserable woes.” And he doesn’t want to hear from them until they have a “REALISTIC” plan that would support and provide happiness for his grandchildren.

“You’ll have to come up with meaty reasons to demolish my points and build a case for yourself. If that isn’t possible, or you simply can’t be bothered, then I rest my case.”

Crews finally ends saying, “I’m bitterly, bitterly disappointed.”

Crews’ son, who told the Daily Mail last week that he hasn’t spoken to his father since (in fact only Emily, the one who released the letter, is speaking with the parents), wouldn’t necessarily agree with his father.

“My father made me who I am today and I think he did a good job,” Fred Crews said. “I do not leech off him, my mother or society – except for a brief stint on Job Seekers’ Allowance – nor am I a criminal of any sort. I try to keep to the values I have been brought up with.”

Still, Fred Crews told The Daily Mail he’s not speaking with his dad until he apologizes.

PHOTO CREDIT: Retired Royal Navy officer Nick Crews, SWNS

Read more including Crews’ full email to his children at The Blaze.